tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057938789702979082.post6926411059436405063..comments2023-06-23T08:59:02.428+01:00Comments on bona vacantia: gloom and fearjoker the lurcherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17260629209872897792noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057938789702979082.post-26686779181456055542009-03-17T00:11:00.000+00:002009-03-17T00:11:00.000+00:00Oh so sorry, anxiety is so difficult to fight back...Oh so sorry, anxiety is so difficult to fight back isn't it? I saw in the other post that you were able to get some meds- hope they help. I do happen to work in human services but in the states where it all might be very different treatment wise I mean!Education wise probably too. My daughter is not yet adolescent- something to look forward to,lol!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057938789702979082.post-71198964789928773542009-03-10T11:19:00.000+00:002009-03-10T11:19:00.000+00:00damn all the hoops you are having to go through - ...damn all the hoops you are having to go through - they just make it all so much worse. Basically my experience is that the mental health specialists just haven't got a clue when it comes to beefburger syndrome. Good to hear they will let him stay at home for now. <BR/><BR/>I know you know that home ed is not about ticking their boxes but you are in a bind right now. <BR/><BR/>My only thoughts are to use his clever brain and try to get him to 'play along for now' and see it as part of a moving forward to being freer later. Of course the fear can really get in the way of their clever brains. I know this so well.<BR/><BR/>hope the gloom clears a bit - I know that very well too.<BR/><BR/>sending big hugs....Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05469050165201599924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057938789702979082.post-50383566255928113602009-03-09T23:23:00.000+00:002009-03-09T23:23:00.000+00:00Sending positive thoughts your way!I get the gloom...Sending positive thoughts your way!<BR/><BR/>I get the gloomy feelings too, and they suck!<BR/><BR/>I hope this all works itself out soon for the boy's sake and for herself.<BR/><BR/>BTW, I noticed that herself is one smart cookie. I love how she fights for her boy's human rights. In my book, SHE ROCKS BIG TIME!contemporary themeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04810901901438064698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057938789702979082.post-27811219174436656192009-03-09T17:22:00.000+00:002009-03-09T17:22:00.000+00:00I found West Sussex absolutely horrendous when my ...I found West Sussex absolutely horrendous when my daughter had troubles at school over 12 years ago. I'm so sorry to hear that things have not improved.<BR/><BR/>Can your GP help with a referral to the relevant Health service? Or a letter to the school? This is probably egg sucking time as I'm sure you've tried everything.<BR/><BR/>Hope things improve soon, thinking of you all.Catofstripeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08626451503696948747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057938789702979082.post-20344361571504644222009-03-09T16:45:00.000+00:002009-03-09T16:45:00.000+00:00I am sorry you have all these problems. It can't b...I am sorry you have all these problems. It can't be easy.<BR/><BR/>Nothing much has changed over the years. I had trouble getting to see someone on behalf of one of my sons many years ago. It took me a year to sort out.Auntie Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03766088371242253341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057938789702979082.post-42938153262168310332009-03-08T15:49:00.000+00:002009-03-08T15:49:00.000+00:00oops, i was going to add that my son is back in sc...oops, i was going to add that my son is back in school now and things are MUCH better.Lynannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02416883491055528952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057938789702979082.post-17705534045555064062009-03-08T15:46:00.000+00:002009-03-08T15:46:00.000+00:00I wish I had words of wisdom but having been in th...I wish I had words of wisdom but having been in the gloom many times myself, and know there arent easy answers. I can only empathize greatly.<BR/><BR/>I'm sure you've looked into it, but how about homeschooling for the rest of the term while you keep taking baby steps to overcome the fears? Here is a link I found through the US-based HSLDA:<BR/><BR/>http://www.heas.org.uk./<BR/><BR/>http://www.hslda.org/hs/international/UnitedKingdom/default.asp<BR/><BR/>We homeschooled for several years because our oldest "beefburger" kid had school-fears after difficulties with a teacher. An educational advisor (certified teacher but supporter of homeschooling) told us that the first weeks away from school are best spent "detoxifying." (not doing things school-related.) There are many ways to learn beyond formal instruction. Kids with ASD are often great homeschoolers becuase of their intense focus on areas of interest. What seems to be an obsession can be expanded into so much more. He's obssesing with GPS and maps? Turn it into lessons on science (what are the physics involved with satelites), math (how does the computer triangulate the coordinates?), social studies (how are GPS unit used beyond play things), history (learn more about an era in history and then tell how things would have been different with GPS), and on and on. <BR/><BR/>Many people un-school but we followed the cirriculum set by the school. I challenged my son to find out how it could be tied in to his area of interest. Some days he didn't feel like doing much "work" but the beauty of homeschooling is you don't have to follow the calender or clock. In the end, he spent more time on educational activities than he realized.<BR/><BR/>how's that for a long, rambling comment? blah...Lynannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02416883491055528952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057938789702979082.post-71033494468213555172009-03-08T02:42:00.000+00:002009-03-08T02:42:00.000+00:00Oh man. I disappear in my gloom and doom for a mon...Oh man. I disappear in my gloom and doom for a month and come back and hear about the boy feeling fear. It sucks the fear, it freezes you. And we live in a very harsh and expectant world.<BR/><BR/>Oh boy. I wish we could all just find it an easy thing, this thing called life.crazymummahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04663148723513574331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057938789702979082.post-28235571004702223862009-03-07T20:47:00.000+00:002009-03-07T20:47:00.000+00:00Does your local "team" have a Paed. Mental Health ...Does your local "team" have a Paed. Mental Health Nurse? Ours is based with a group of services headed by the Community Paediatrian and makes home visits, even better you can start off as a 'self referral'. Might be more use than the clinic. Has the Ed Psych been in touch, via the school, only useful if you have a good one, of course!<BR/>Just wish your boy could join ours at his truly astounding school - we have difficulty in keeping him at home when we need to - it sounds as if it would be about the same amount of travel time!<BR/>I have quite a good US site I get educational ideas from if you would like the link?Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15646014628874825368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057938789702979082.post-81429430478206747552009-03-07T20:32:00.000+00:002009-03-07T20:32:00.000+00:00oh, poor Boy! Maybe if the lurcher went with him?oh, poor Boy! Maybe if the lurcher went with him?flutterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828689769747130419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057938789702979082.post-13199358807269856262009-03-07T16:15:00.000+00:002009-03-07T16:15:00.000+00:00The inadequacy of words of morale support appalls ...The inadequacy of words of morale support appalls me really. And yet knowing we are thinking of you may just ease your heart a little. xx JJoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04681996675508746353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057938789702979082.post-59942010515030741552009-03-07T13:51:00.000+00:002009-03-07T13:51:00.000+00:00I am so sorry to hear of your problems. It never ...I am so sorry to hear of your problems. It never rains but it pours, springs to mind. Petty beaurocracy rears it's ugly head once again. I do hope things get better for you soon.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04070932500118412102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057938789702979082.post-71159403013112892292009-03-07T12:47:00.000+00:002009-03-07T12:47:00.000+00:00and yet you write it with humour again. you astou...and yet you write it with humour again. you astound me. I wouldn't be capable. I have no practicle wisdom for you at all. I just wish you strength and the possibility of a breakthrough. And if you need to talk with someone I'm here, albeit way far over here. No longer on Facebook but at eabones@hotmail.com<BR/>Much love. Hang in there.<BR/>erinWoman in a Windowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14747858840088922077noreply@blogger.com